Mediation works best when both spouses focus on reaching a fair resolution rather than trying to “win.” Participants are encouraged to shift from positions to needs — for example, focusing on creating a safe, stable home for the children rather than insisting on keeping the house itself. Be willing to compromise by offering something important to the other spouse in exchange for something meaningful to yourself. Finally, stay open to creative solutions. Generate and evaluate different options together. Mediation succeeds when both parties work toward a solution that benefits everyone, rather than treating the process like a competition.