Nah, I Don't Really Like that Mediator [VIDEO]
Clare Piro, a family and divorce mediator and attorney, advises against pressuring a spouse into choosing a mediator they don't like. Instead, she suggests identifying the qualities each of you seeks in a mediator and using those criteria to evaluate potential mediators. If your spouse continues to reject all options, it might raise questions about their willingness to engage in good faith mediation. In that case, you may need to reassess if mediation is the right path forward.
If you would like more information about mediation, prenups, and family law, check out my website — ClarePiroMediation.com.
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